“What are you going to do for yourself today?” my therapist asked. “I’m gonna grab a chai tea latte on my way home,” I replied, already calculating how I’d Tetris my day together for maximal productivity. Though I’ve spent a lot of time working on not labeling things as black and white, good or bad, or success or failure, it remains a challenge. I still proceed through my days giving myself green check marks when my day meets my expectations, or red x’s when my plans derail.